Beyond Superficial Self-Love

Want to break free from the trap of superficial self-love and truly transform your life? This episode reveals the raw and unfiltered truth about personal evolution. Hear Christina share her journey through separation and divorce, detailing how she moved beyond surface-level solutions to find genuine empowerment. You’ll learn why affirmations and self-care routines aren’t enough and what it takes to become the woman you aspire to be.

Our conversation dives into the necessity of facing tough emotions and having honest, vulnerable conversations with yourself. Discover how strategic investment in personal growth, beyond fun self-love practices, can lead to profound transformation. This episode is a must-listen for women feeling stuck, offering support and inspiration to embrace the hard parts of life and evolve into your best self.

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:00

Experiencing the woman that you want to be and the life that you want to live doesn't come in some glamorous, fun, self-love way, and I think that's the big misconception that a lot of people have is it's like, oh, if I do self-love, if I do affirmations, if I do positive self-talk and I just push through and power through and give it time, I'm suddenly going to emerge into the woman that I aspire to be or the life that I wish that I had. And it's not the case. And it takes a lot of work, it takes intention, it takes strategy, it takes investment in yourself on a much deeper level than just affirmations or self-care routine or me dates or getting out and living life and having fun until the life that I want shows up, been having fun until the life that I want shows up. And that's the thing that I'm not seeing online as much, which really bothers me, because people are getting caught in this trap of thinking they're doing what they need to do and really all that's happening is it's just enough to keep them going and time is just passing by, and I had lunch with three different women this past week and all are caught in that Each one and they all looked in their own words but looked at me and essentially said you know how did you do it? They know some of the hard things I've gone through in my life and they're not getting it and we want to do this glamorous, fun way of reinventing ourselves or our life or whatever, and it's not what it takes.

Speaker 1: 2:18

When I went through my separation and my divorce, I did that for a couple years and I realized I wasn't fully healing, I wasn't fully embracing creating a new life. I didn't view myself as the empowered woman that I was now after going through such hard thing. And it wasn't until I really drilled deep down and got honest with myself on how am I really doing? And I started sitting with those feelings and I started having the tough conversations with myself of why I felt the way that I felt, and I didn't try to sugarcoat it or sound strong or be like light at the end of the tunnel, talk no, like I was honest, like if it was doom and gloom. We were doom and gloom that day and I started there. And as I dealt with that, as I started being able to dream more, as I started to be able to put then actions towards those dreams. That's when the transformation whatever you want to call it started to happen.

Speaker 1: 3:28

It's a process. It's hard. You've got to really be intentional with. This is a time where I'm investing in me now and what I need, and life's not going to start being hard. So I got to figure out how do I do this while I still do life, and that's what I strive to support women with, because, from what I see at least, there's not enough of that support. I didn't have it. I found little bits of it along the way, but we've got to be willing to be vulnerable and honest with ourselves in a loving, kind way. That helps us, and that's something that you can learn to do. And once you learn to do that and be that for yourself, you have it for forever. You have it for the next hard time. You have it for the next season where you want to to transform and create what's next and merge into something new. It's doable and it breaks my heart to see women settling for versions of themselves and settling for a life that just isn't the best for them.