Success Beyond Outcomes

What if you measured success not by the result but by the bravery it took to venture outside your comfort zone? Join us in a riveting conversation with Christina, who shares her profound and courageous journey of shifting her perspective on success. From her marriage ending to leaving her corporate job to pursue coaching full-time, Christina takes us through the highs and lows of her bold decisions. She reveals how embracing the courage to try new things, even when they don't pan out as planned, can transform your mindset from fearing failure to celebrating effort and growth.

Despite her initial enthusiasm, Christina's candid reflections on discovering that a full-time coaching career wasn't her ultimate calling shed light on the significance of self-discovery and adaptability. She explains how valuing the journey over the destination has empowered her to approach life with excitement rather than fear. Listen in as Christina inspires us to redefine success on our terms, encouraging us to celebrate our daring choices and relish the learning experiences. This episode promises to motivate you to live authentically and measure your achievements by your willingness to step into the unknown.

Transcript

Christina Hillyard: 0:01

I decided a long time ago to switch up how I measure success in my life. So, instead of the outcome turning into having to be what I hoped it would be in order for me to be successful, my measure of success was the fact that I dared to try. I dared to show up, give it the best of me. That was it. This has helped me greatly. When I think about my marriage that ended in divorce, when I think about the corporate job that I left to pursue doing my coaching full-time, then I realized, wait, I don't actually want to have clients full-time, and so many other areas of my life. It could go on and on and on of where, even just in my job, where, let's say, implemented a new project or idea and it just didn't pan out. Well, when your measure of success is based on the fact that you chose over being comfortable or stagnant or just sticking to the familiar, to chose to dare to create something new, try something new, it changes the game, because it takes you from going from a plate of fear of failure, of what if I do this and it doesn't work out. What if? What are people gonna think of me? Like what? What do I feel about myself, it's, it's switches, all of it, because then it's like wait if, as long as I dare to create what's next in my life, as long as I dare to try something new, to actually decide on a choice and make it and own my choice, just the pure fact that I did that, that I showed up, that I gave it what I could, means I'm successful immediately. There's no possibility of failure because I showed up, and when that's our measure of success, it feels so empowering. I remember when I first shift my perspective to measure my success in this way, I suddenly had all of this excitement to try new things, to do new things, to dare to love again all of the things. Because I realized that when I sit back on my rocking chair and I look back at my life, I want to be able to feel like man. That girl really lived, she tried things, she put herself out there. That's what I'm going to care about. I'm not going to care about if it worked, I'm not going to care about the things that were outside of my control and base my success off of that. No, I want to be able to look back and say I did that, I tried that.

Christina Hillyard: 3:08

Most recent example is I left my corporate job just shy of a year ago and for those of you that don't know me, I'm an internationally certified coach and I've been doing coaching on this side for the past almost six years with my corporate job. But I was like no, I love it, this is what I want to do full time, and the only thing that's getting in my way is because I have to do this corporate job and so I quit my job. It took me about four or five months to kind of get over the burnout and stuff that I was experiencing and very quickly I realized I actually don't want to do this full time. I love to do this, but seeing client after client all day is exhausting. The amount of time and attention and effort it takes before and after sessions for clients is a lot of work, and instead of me feeling like, oh my gosh, I quit my corporate job for this, I'm such a failure, what are people going to think? They're probably going to think, oh, you're just not good enough, so it didn't work out for you.

Christina Hillyard: 4:11

All of the things were storming through my head and I very quickly had to remind myself to shut that voice up because I had already succeeded. I dared to try, dared to go for something, and so many times we don't know how it's going to pan out. We can make an educated decision or guess really, but you don't know until you actually do it and you're in it. I've learned so much about myself in the process. I've met so many amazing people in the process and I did it. I dared to try. Now I know that you know what. That's not really what I want to do. So I'm left yet again in this place in my life where I got to create what's next? What does Christina want to do now? That's exciting, not, oh, that didn't work out. Now I have to figure out something new, not in this place of scrambling, but in place of. I get to look back and say I did that, I tried, not for me. Now what's next?

Christina Hillyard: 5:18

We've got to empower ourselves to shift what we view as what makes us feel successful, what makes us feel good about ourselves, and not let the opinions of people who, honestly, often aren't even where we want to be in life, creep in and affect how we feel about ourselves. And so I'd love for you to. It applies to anything in life. You could look at your job, your career. You could look at your relationships. You could look at just where you live. Maybe a new hobby you tried? Where can you switch up? How you're measuring your success in a way where it's not reliant on things that are outside of your control, meaning a specific outcome, but it's solely reliant on the fact that you tried, that you showed up where you could be like wow, I really like am daring to live and try new things and have new experiences and really create what's next in my life. Where can you do that? Where can you empower yourself more so you can live more fully and authentically in new and exciting experiences that bring you to life?